When I Hit You

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When I Hit You by Meena Kandasamy

Reviewed by Linda
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Iโ€™ve decided to rehash this 2018 review of this incredible book in light of recent events which have continued to highlight the barbaric nature of this world and that even at the turn of a new decade in the 21st century, women are not exempt from oppression. In an effort to continue to silence brilliant women, Meena Kandasamy finds herself, yet again scrutinised and trolled for speaking out about her personal experiences. Most horrific of all the accusations comes from Menโ€™s Rights Activists of the Indian subcontinent who have claimed that โ€œ...as a feminist she could not have been in an abusive marriage, and if she was in such a marriage, she could not be a feminist.โ€

To those unfamiliar, When I Hit You is based on Meenaโ€™s own experience of marriage. The unnamed protagonistโ€™s traumatic experience of being abused in every form possible, is captured with unflinching honesty and grit. Kandasamy doesnโ€™t sugarcoat any of the details, especially when describing the consequential suppression and loss of identity of the new bride. Every sentence is powerfully raw and quote-worthy that it is hard to understand how it is simultaneously so PERFECTLY written. And thatโ€™s the point - here, writing and reading fiction is the escape.

Minutes will pass until you realise that youโ€™ve held your breath and need to consciously pause to exhale.

This is not a fairytale, nor is there a happy ending but a book with a take home message for everyone and NOT just for women: but for men to acknowledge the barbarities that women face everyday around the world; for parents to support their daughters and raise their boys to have compassion; and for everyone else on this planet to know how harsh the world can be.

Linda Malek

I've always had the urge to set up a forum and voice my thoughts after each read, but never had the confidence to do so alone. 18 months ago, I got my fellow book-loving friends involved and formed The Candid Book Club! Aside from having an exponentially growing to-read pile and deteriorating shortsightedness, we've been lucky to have been invited to publisher events and have attended several talks with our favourite authors (Thank you and long may they continue!) To take a break from the pressures of PhD Chemistry, Jess and I exchanged books all the time and in my youth, I was that kid with the first editions of Harry Potter having already read Gulliverโ€™s travels and some Charles Dickens. At work, my desk is a library and luckily for me I sit next to another bookworm Jack who entertains all the photo-taking. I'm suffering from a chronic case of wanderlust (age-related crisis) so books which are set as far away from home as possible tend to float my boat: Middle East, Israeli-Palestinian conflict, Asia...you name it. But if it's got anything to do with Egypt then I'm all over it. So you get the drift...I read all the time, everywhere (on the tube mostly), everyday, a book a week, and very quickly I'm onto the next! And then sometimes there is a book that stops me in my tracks, makes me want to swallow the pages whole, and have it next to me at all times, with some sentences staying with me forever: Shantaram by David Gregory Roberts, anything by Khaled Hosseini, The Shadow of the Wind by Carlos Ruiz Zafon, Stay With Me by Ayobami Adebayo (absolute gem of a woman), A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara, A Fine Balance by Rohinton Mistry, The Good Immigrant edited by Nikesh Shuklaand and anything by Naguib Mahfouz.

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