How We Met

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How We Met: A Memoir of Love and Other Misadventures by Huma Qureshi
Reviewed by Mimi
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Being the first to break the status quo in your family is hard. It involves so many moments of emotional stress especially when the pattern you are interrupting relates to your life partner. Huma has gifted us an incredibly personal, honest, romantic and thoughtful account of how she came to be with her husband Richard, a man not born a Muslim or into the Asian community.

It is sensitive and very clearly a story shared to help others not to create drama which I fully appreciated. Coming from a Pakistani family the expectation was to pick a husband from a few choices made via introductions. For a lot of people, that is entirely successful.

This cultural expectation is part of the challenge for Huma. She spent time studying abroad and built a level of independence which made her "unattractive".

Something that sticks out for me is that Huma wanted her family and her children to be raised in the faith. It was obvious that her faith and culture were and are important to her so this slightly clichΓ©d story of girl rebelling from her family is not at all what happens here.

It was clear to me that Huma also had ambitions and elements of her character that were in conflict to a successful relationship with the potential suitors put in front of her. In the circumstances the easy route would have been to settle and there were occasions where she nearly did. That was also very real.

The process of meeting Richard, getting through the hurdles with her family, dealing with the loss of her father as well all provide a memoir that I can't believe we haven't seen before. We have this perception of romance where it’s all grand gestures and never compromising. In the end, to find someone who not only hears but understands is the most romantic thing.

Miriam Hanna

Aka Mimi. I have known Linda for a very, very long time. We grew up together and you learn very quickly that when she gets an idea in her head, you would be an idiot not to back her to see it through. When the idea of the book club came up it was another lightbulb moment where I knew this wasn't only going to be a success but really fun.


I have always been a bookworm. Remember when you were little and you went shopping with your mum or dad and they gave you a toy or something to occupy yourself with whilst you were in the trolley? I used to get books to keep me quiet. They were and are my ultimate form of escapism and more and more they are about understanding who I am as a person. Books make me cry more than films and TV Shows. I can get lost for hours. I love historic fiction, political thrillers and gritty crime novels but also biographies and memoirs of people I find interesting like sportspeople. I was fortunate to be in the Harry Potter generation and if weren't for those books I don't know what I would have. Young literature was so poor at the point. To have a book that had me and my family queuing up at midnight to buy was seriously special.

Whether you listen to audio books, read off a kindle or stick to carrying around good old fashioned hard copies (that's me!) I truly believe reading is the best way to spend some time every day.


The books I would have with me on a desert island? πŸ“šπŸHarry Potter and the Prisoner of Akzaban, Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg, Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen, The Chimp Paradox by Steve Peters, The Power by Naomi Alderman, Mom & Me & Mom by Maya Angelou, Goodnight Mister Tom by Michelle Magorian, Born a Crime by Trevor Noah and The Time Traveller’s Wife by Audrey Niffenegger.

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